I like to say please sometimes when I want to be polite to someone when asking them for something. Is this customary in Mandarin?
For example, if I wanted to ask for some water, I might ask my friend Li, in English, "would you please pour me some water?" In Mandarin, I only know to say wo xiang he shui, xie xie. Also, I'm aware that saying thank you to a Chinese person can sometimes create a feeling of distance, and sometimes that is undesirable.
So, Chinese people, and speakers, how do you politely ask for things, and how do you receive a statement such as "wo xiang he shui, xie xie"? Does it come off as rude in any way?
PS - sorry I don't have chinese input on this device, but I think fluent speakers will know what I mean.