I saw some people wrote the following sentence.

今天你想我了没 ?

I thought the question would be: Today, do you miss me or not? I am just a very beginner. But for the same meaning I would ask as following.


So, is 今天你想我了没? a correct sentence/question? How about my question, is it correct or not?

  • If you want to say "miss" in the typically romantic sense, it is 想念, as in 我很想念你, (I miss you very much) Here's a nice song about 想, called 亲爱的你在想我吗 -- youtu.be/YaK_Y07dqtQ Oct 14, 2021 at 11:53

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今天你想我了没? Did you miss me today? or have you miss me today? "or not" is unnecessary. This sentence is quite poetic.

你今天想不想我吗? This is not a good sentence, "想不想" means "do you want to", so it does not fit the question well. Let's say "你今天想我了吗?" or "你今天想我不?". But as a general question without a specific date, you can ask "你想不想我?" or simply "你想我吗?"

  • So, "想不想" means "do you want it or not".
    – O Connor
    Oct 14, 2021 at 11:10
  • Yes. "想不想去吃飯?", "想不想回家?" - "Do you want to eat?", "Do you want to go home?"
    – r13
    Oct 14, 2021 at 11:18
  • Why do you omit the translation of "不想" = "or not?"
    – O Connor
    Oct 14, 2021 at 11:22
  • It is just unnecessary - "do you miss me or not?" = "do you miss me?" The latter is shorter yet more sophisticated. The former sounds like the whining from a teenager :)
    – r13
    Oct 14, 2021 at 11:29
  • I see. I just want learn to translate things literally.
    – O Connor
    Oct 14, 2021 at 12:16

今天你想我了没 ? is correct. Your sentence works without 吗, like 你今天想不想我?.

verb+了没 is kinda pattern we can use most of time. E.g. 说了没, 发了没, 想了没, etc. 了 can be omitted like 说没, 发没, 想没.

  • How do people know that 你今天想不想我?means "Today, do you miss me or not? and not "Today, do you want me or not?"
    – O Connor
    Oct 14, 2021 at 11:16
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    @OConnor Normally, it means do you miss me or not. "do you want me or not" would normally be 你今天想不想要我?, which sounds pretty flirtatious.
    – dan
    Oct 14, 2021 at 11:27
  • is 今天你想我没? without 了 also correct?
    – O Connor
    Oct 14, 2021 at 14:57
  • @OConnor Yeah, it's fine.
    – dan
    Oct 14, 2021 at 22:35

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