I had heard a husband refer to his wife in Cantonese as 師奶 (pronounced "see lai"). The way he said it sounded like an insult but I was told it's not a bad word.

How would 師奶 be described in English? Is it a word that carries any negative connotations? Would certain women be offended if they are addressed as 師奶? Is it ever appropriate to call a woman 師奶? Is 師奶 unique to Cantonese? Is there an equivalent word in Mandarin?

The impression I get is it carries the same weight as the Japanese おばさん (obasan), which Japanese women do not like to be called. Obasan means a woman has passed her youth (青春 seishun) and is now a middle aged "aunty" who is no longer attractive to men. Is 師奶 similar or different to this?

I'm not sure if 師奶 is a slang. If it's not, let me know so I can remove the tag.

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    Yes, I do think it's strictly a Cantonese word. Many Chinese may not know the word unless they have a lot of exposure to Cantonese culture (for instance, Hong Kong TV series or films)
    – user58955
    Commented Feb 8, 2014 at 19:38
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    I know 師奶杀手 (auntie-killer) refers to a man who attracts older women with his boyish charm.
    – 杨以轩
    Commented Feb 9, 2014 at 7:31
  • I'm not Cantonese but I know the word. Mainland China has been greatly influenced by Hongkong's pop culture.
    – hrzhu
    Commented Feb 10, 2014 at 15:11
  • There is perhaps an analogy to the English word 'woman'. If used in certain contexts or perhaps with a certain tone, it could have negative connotations. But officially, the word by itself is perfectly neutral.
    – user4133
    Commented Dec 17, 2014 at 20:34

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"師奶(师奶)" refer to a married woman, and is popular used in Southern China. Is is rarely used in Mandarin.


translate to Simplified Chinese "师奶(‘奶’字要读高N音,和‘拉’到音调一样),太太的俗称。主要是街坊邻居用来打招呼的词。也可以用来嘲笑不修边幅,看起来向像家庭主妇的未婚女士,这些未婚女士也会被叫做‘师奶仔’。"

translate to English "师奶,refer to 太太(太太 is not wife but married woman in here). It is often used among the neighbors. A makeup-free unmarried woman who looks like a housewife is mocked and called '师奶仔'. "


  • I choose your post as the answer because the Wikipedia link answered all my questions.
    – amateur
    Commented Feb 9, 2014 at 4:54

From a Hong Kong person's perspective:

師奶 is indeed a term that is rather offensive to most ladies in today's context.

In my experiences, it tends to be used to refer to one or more of the below characteristics:

  1. Horrible lady drivers
  2. Ladies who love to gossip
  3. Housewives with too much time on their hands
  4. Bargain hunters
  5. Poor fashion sense, or wearing very "aunty" clothes
  6. Out of shape
  7. Loves mahjong, loves drama serials on TV

This is a link from Hong Kong's phrase dictionary.

Sorry it is written in Cantonese Chinese. I can try translate any parts of it for you if you want.

I would never try calling any lady a 師奶, at all. I will stick to 家庭主婦 (jiā tíng zhǔ fù), which means housewife instead.

And yes it counts as slang.

  • I disagree. The word doesn't have any negative connotation. It's probably a little vulgar (in the Chinese sense of vulgarity) but it's never offensive.
    – horaceT
    Commented Mar 2, 2017 at 3:38

The word 師奶 is (1) exclusively Cantonese, (2) the equivalent of 太太 (meaning "Mistress", "madam" or "lady" here, not "wife") when used in a neutral manner, and (3) not a slang. It was used as a compliment in old Hong Kong (around WWII, for instance). The commentary from this blog (written by a book editor) says it well:



However, this complimentary usage is now lost, and the word is either used in a casual but neutral manner or as a pejorative to signify ignorant housewives.


Note: I'm only answering from my experience, so my extrapolation of meaning/connotation may not be completely correct.

師奶 (I'm not sure about the exact characters used, since the second character as a different tone than that of 奶) generally refers to a married woman, as stated here by Wiktionary. It generally has fairly negative connotations: e.g. uncouth, gossipy, etc. - perhaps the stereotypical uncultured housewife. (See this student feature in The Standard for some examples.) Thus, the term probably generally offensive if said to someone's face, although at times it might be used more neutrally, depending on the context. In this way, the term seems different from おばさん, given that the latter seems more of a comment on the addressee's age.

Judging from the first site, it seems to be chiefly a Cantonese term. However, I don't know enough informal Mandarin to be able to give an equivalent term in Mandarin.


"奶" in "師奶" means a respected madam (夫人) in a family.

"師" means that she is a good model for other women. (又《玉篇》範也。敎人以道者之稱也。《書·泰誓》作之師。《禮·文王世子》出則有師。師也者,敎之以事而喻諸德者也。又《玉篇》象他人也。《增韻》法也,效也。《書·臯陶謨》百僚師師。《傳》師師,相師法。)

Hence we had the term "馬應彪師奶".


See Lai is usually used in a negative light and is cantonese slang. When you use see lai, you are implying that you don't respect the person (who is female), either by making fun of their age, looks or intelligence.

If you want to address someone's wife, you should use tai tai (太太)or lou po (老婆). If you want to speak to a female who you don't know their name, use siu jie (小姐)which translates to "Miss", which is more polite and likely to flatter them if they are quite old.


The correct word for 師奶 should be 司奶: http://zh.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E5%B8%AB%E5%A5%B6

司 = responsible for 奶 = milk

In ancient time, there were title like 司马、司徒、司空、司寇、司农。 For example 马 is horse and 司马 was equivalent to today's Defense Ministry, so 司奶 mean a person responsible for milk. In modern day, I think it is not polite to call a woman 司奶, especially young professional lady, since nowadays women have many responsibilities, not only milk.


C lai further explanation

It is sad that it has this negative vibe to being called a C lai. Which most importantly means being a stay at home mother taking care of either their young or older children.

Further important to mention: C lai's do not want to work outside at a regular job. They want to stricly take care of their kids - which is a more than tough job already too ofcourse (not being sarcastic).

C lai's do have spare time on hands and make sure they plan their days with mainly fun activities too. Because they don't like being alone.

  • You could edit your original answer.
    – user4072
    Commented May 20, 2017 at 11:08

A see lai is a (married) housewife - strictly taking care of kids and household. A see lai has nothing to do with being middle aged. Whether you just got married and have young kids or older kids. This is no difference.

The husband brings in the dough. She receives money to spend. A see lai enjoys mainly the company of other see lai, because her working girlfriends of course don't have spare time.

This is the explanation of a modern-day see lai.

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